Parenting an adult child needs a lot of effort. The balance between you and your child’s connection will seem to be like seesaws. You will feel more challenges in their stage to 20s. you have to find out the same ground without disturbing the comfortable boundaries between you and your child.
A parent taught their child how to walk, talk, hold their hands and teach them how to cross the roads safely because at that time they don’t understand, but now their jobs have been changed as their child had grown up to an adult child. At some moment parent’s jobs and their roles changing in front of their adult child. They have to let go of things for their adult children. Their child started doing things according to their needs and thinking they will not ask their parents for every little thing they need.
When your child reaches in its 20s, the following strategies will help to nurture the friendship:
Let them learn from their mistakes
As a child becomes an adult, they make their own choices and wants to be independence from their parents. At this stage, parents have to listen to them when they had listened to their parents. They must understand their child’s point of view. Must try to appreciate their thoughts and must support on their journey.
Learn new skills as a parent
When your child has grown up into an adult, you have to change your behavior and have to learn some new parenting an adult child skills. You have to learn to love them even more and giving them some space to live their own life.
You have to but your best approach to not involve your child into some abuse or bad habits of alcohol. This might need some tough love for parents toward their child.
Letting go of some things
By letting go of things and your child to another city doesn’t mean that your parenting an adult job is over, just your job has changed. At this stage, you have to listen to their thoughts and have to accept the things according to them. they will not ask you for buying a new car or moving to another job. You just become powerless in front of your adult child.